• English
  • French
  • German
  • Italian
  • Portuguese
  • Spanish
  • Swedish

Insurance Funding Request

Did you know Firefly products may be funded by your insurance?

Learn More
Back to Firefly Blog

Left turn at the traffic lights

Left turn at the traffic lights

It was a little over 7 years ago when I blew out of my office door with a giant belly, proclaiming myself a lady of leisure for the next 12 months.

I sincerely imagined lazy mornings, slow afternoons in coffee shops, baby groups and generally lots of relaxing fun with my baby. Boy was I clueless!

My first baby arrived and I felt like someone had pushed me off a ledge and yelled "fly" in my ear.

There were definitely long mornings at home, and trips to the coffee shop and baby groups, but I was so busy learning how to mother I didn't really get to appreciate any of it and then my baby was on the move and nothing was relaxing again!

He was two and half when we decided to have another baby.

In the end I never had gone back to work so I imagined our life would carry on much as it had been for the last couple of years. Long play dates, where we drank many cups of tea and days out to the National Trust where we all came home bronzed and sticky fingered from our picnic.

Boy was I clueless!

My second baby sustained a hypoxic injury and our parenting course took a bit of a left turn. It took some adjusting learning how to mother my tube fed baby without breastfeeding, which had played such a big role in mothering my eldest. Learning how to manage his medical needs, the nasal gastric tube, and the suction machine.

Everything I thought I knew had to be unlearned so I could learn again. There were no long playdates, or days out to the National Trust.

There were long days spent with a 3 year old between my legs and my baby screaming on my shoulder.

At the time it felt less like parenting and more like survival. But with time things got better, easier perhaps. He stopped crying so much and we became accustomed to this new life, so we thought we'd have another.

Well this time I'd learned the lessons of the past, this next baby would be whoever they were going to be, I could not control or guess what that might be.

There were no day dreams of what it might be like to mother 3 children, to be honest it was an anxious time.

But he arrived safely, and as third children apparently often do, he slotted in easily and with the 2 oldest at school and nursery finally I was able to enjoy the freedom and ease of a young baby with the confidence of an experienced mum.

I have realised that I am not the mother I thought I would be.

In the last seven years, with my three children, I've been on quite the journey. I'm not the authoritative parent I imagined in my first pregnancy, nor am I the earth mother I imagined second time around.

I've learned a lot about myself, my 7 year old reflects so much of me! And I realise profoundly that all children are different and require different parts of me and from me.

I have learnt to slip seamlessly back and forth depending on who needs me in that moment.

I think that I am one very lucky mumma indeed to have 3 such awesome boys to love and who love me, and despite taking that alternate route 3 years ago, I strode home from the school gate today very proud of my little family.

Firefly Blog

Real life stories, issues and experiences of day to day life by special needs parents and
healthcare professionals.

Nicola Sheldon

Meet Our Blogger

I'm Nicola, mama to three awesome boys. We live in Thatcham, Berkshire with my husband and dad extraordinaire Chris along with our dog Percy and cat Fudge. I care for my second son Thomas full time and in my spare time volunteer for local organisations supporting women and babies.

View Nicola’s Profile

Become a Firefly Blogger

Would you like to write for Firefly? Join our blogger network of parents, therapists and professionals.

Get In Touch

Become a subscriber today

Join over 40,000 subscribers to our weekly newsletter with insightful articles just when you need them.

Join Mailing List

By using our site you agree to our use of cookies. Click here for more info.

Accept & Close

No Interest if paid in full in 6 months on

Purchases on $99+

US Customers only. Subject to credit approval. See terms below

Paypal Credit

Pay now or pay over time with PayPal Credit. Just use PayPal Credit in PayPal checkout.

Subject to credit approval.

Purchases of $99+:

No Interest if paid in full in 6 months on purchases of $99 or more.

  • A minimum monthly payment is required and may or may not pay off the promotional purchase by the end of the 6 month period.
  • No interest will be charged on the purchase if you pay it off in full within 6 months. If you do not, interest will be charged on the purchase from the purchase date at the Purchase APR applicable to your account.
  • For New Accounts: Variable Purchase APR is 25.49%. The APR is accurate as of 6/1/2018 and will vary with the market based on the Prime Rate (as defined in your credit card agreement). Minimum interest charge is $2.00.
  • Individual items that are less than $99 qualify for special financing when combined for a total of $99 or more in a single transaction.
  • Multiple separate transactions of less than $99 per transaction cannot be combined to meet the minimum purchase amount.

Purchases of $98.99 or less:

Buy now and pay over time with PayPal Credit when you spend $98.99 or less.

  • If you pay your balance in full each month by the payment due date that is on your statement, you can avoid paying interest.
  • Or, make minimum monthly payments, or any additional amount of your choosing, until you've paid off your balance according to your standard account terms. Please note, interest charges may apply.
  • We'll send you email reminders when your payments are due. You can also keep track of your account and view your statements online at any time.

About PayPal Credit

  • PayPal Credit is a reusable credit line available on purchases at thousands of stores that accept PayPal. It's also available for purchases on eBay and exclusively at thousands of other online stores. Plus, it comes with the same security and flexibility you trust from PayPal.
  • If approved, we start you off with a minimum credit line of at least $250. See FAQs for more info.
  • For New Accounts: Variable Purchase APR is 25.49%. The APR is accurate as of 6/1/2018 and will vary with the market based on the Prime Rate (as defined in your credit card agreement). Minimum interest charge is $2.00. See Terms and Conditions tab for more info.
  • If you miss a payment your late fee could be up to $38, even less if it's your first time. See FAQs for more info.

Please wait...