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We all have those why days

Posted by Amy Sweeney on 2nd December 2020 Additional Needs, Advice & Support, Disabilities

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We all have them.

Days where we just feel a little bit down and can’t help but wonder why.

It might happen after a busy day, it might happen after a day of nothingness.. But it will happen to us all at least once. 

Your why moment could be anything from “why won’t my baby just sleep no matter what I try” to something as deep as “why do bad things happen to good people”.

The worst thing about these moments?

There often never seems to be a definite answer. Ever. So that closure you were looking for, the answer you’re hoping will jump out at you, it just doesn’t seem to be there. 

But there are things you can do to help.

It could be a phone call or a message with a close friend or family member and it really does help to get things off your chest.

It’s so important to talk, never keep anything that’s really worrying you to yourself.

Or even if it’s not really worrying you, it’s sometimes good just to have a bit of a moan isn’t it!

For me, it was social media that helped me when I’m having a why moment.

I joined groups and connected with people I would never come across in my day to day life and the most amazing thing is these people get it, they really do!

Those why moments that you’re having, you can be sure that they’ve had them at some point too!

They’ll not have the answers but they’ll have the understanding.

You might post a worry or message someone and the reply you get is often that they’ve been through the same “and here’s what I did to help!” 

Making the decision to connect with others on social media was the best thing I did for me - but of course it’s not for everyone.

We all have different ways of coping but one thing to make sure you do, is find your way.

Have something (or someone!) that you can do to ease those worries, to help that anxiety and to lift your mood when it’s down and to make you see things from a different angle. 

For example, take a look at the photo attached to this blog. What was your first reaction? 

Now what if I told you that’s it’s a beautiful autumn day painted by my 4 year old son with cerebral palsy, he tried really hard and was very proud of himself (it’s now hanging up in my living room!).

Did that first reaction change?

All you needed was me to tell you the story behind the image.

Sometimes it helps just to have someone change your view of the situation and suddenly things somehow seem that little bit better.