• English
  • French
  • German
  • Italian
  • Portuguese
  • Spanish
  • Swedish
Back to Firefly Blog

Step by Step

Step by Step

Right now, everything seems overwhelming. Society is at a standstill and it feels as though there is no end in sight. It is a situation no one ever expected, yet one we are in. Something I was not ready for was the stress of having to work from home as much as possible in order to care for my children.

The two worlds just do not combine in any way, shape or form.

Within a day I felt I was failing on all fronts but tried to carry on. I so desperately wanted to be able to continue my job as it is a job I love, whilst caring for my children at such an awful and difficult time. Then I saw a post about making small changes rather than trying to change everything at once. The idea was that if you wanted to re-decorate your entire house, you wouldn’t expect to get it all done in one day, you’d take it room by room, step by step. The situation I found myself in was no different and so this is what I needed to do.

I cannot manage a full-time job whilst also caring for my children, one of whom has complex medical needs, full time. I also cannot make a schedule for each day of activities and expect to stick to it to try to teach them everything they are missing out on at nursery, whilst ensuring Alfie’s additional needs are all being met. I am only one person, and most certainly did not choose a career in teaching.

So, I stopped. I stopped putting pressure on myself to work constantly and stopped trying to do activities all day at the same time as working. I am just playing with them and let them choose the activity as that is what they need right now when everything else is out of our control. Yet I’ve started to include certain, small things, each day. Such as counting with Rory or helping Alfie to learn to use his communication buttons more.

I took a step back just to breathe and gather myself before I broke, and I realised how close to breaking I was.

We can’t do everything. There is a reason why children go to nursery and school to learn, rather than parents being the ones to teach them. There is a reason I picked the career I have. I cannot do both all of the time, and that is okay.

Everyone just needs to remember to take things in smaller steps instead of setting goals that are unachievable and ultimately do more harm than good.

Firefly Blog

Real life stories, issues and experiences of day to day life by special needs parents and
healthcare professionals.

Rebecca Highton

Meet Our Blogger

I am a mum of twins, one has special needs. I enjoy blogging about life and the reality of parenting.

View Rebecca’s Profile

Become a Firefly Blogger

Would you like to write for Firefly? Join our blogger network of parents, therapists and professionals.

Get In Touch

Become a subscriber today

Join over 40,000 subscribers to our weekly newsletter with insightful articles just when you need them.

Join Mailing List

By using our site you agree to our use of cookies. Click here for more info.

Accept & Close

No Interest if paid in full in 4 months on

Purchases on £99+

UK Customers only. Subject to credit approval. See terms below

Paypal Credit

Pay now or pay over time with PayPal Credit. Just use PayPal Credit in PayPal checkout.

Subject to credit approval.

Purchases of £99+:

No Interest if paid in full in 4 months on purchases of £99 or more.

  • A minimum monthly payment is required and may or may not pay off the promotional purchase by the end of the 4-month period.
  • No interest will be charged on the purchase if you pay it off in full within 4 months. If you do not, interest will be charged on the purchase from the purchase date at the Purchase APR applicable to your account.
  • Any remaining balance due after the 4-month promotional period or any transactions under £99 will be charged interest at 19.9% p.a. (variable).

Purchases of £98.99 or less:

Buy now and pay over time with PayPal Credit when you spend £98.99 or less.

  • If you pay your balance in full each month by the payment due date that is on your statement, you can avoid paying interest.
  • Or, make minimum monthly payments, or any additional amount of your choosing, until you've paid off your balance according to your standard account terms. Please note, interest charges may apply.
  • We'll send you email reminders when your payments are due. You can also keep track of your account and view your statements online at any time.

About PayPal Credit

  • PayPal Credit is a reusable credit line available on purchases at thousands of stores that accept PayPal. It's also available for purchases on eBay and exclusively at thousands of other online stores. Plus, it comes with the same security and flexibility you trust from PayPal.
  • In order to maintain the 0% offer, you need to keep up monthly repayments and stay within your credit limit. Credit subject to status. Terms and conditions apply. UK residents only.

Please wait...

Continue Shopping