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You Can’t Do It All

Posted by Amy Sweeney on 12th June 2020 Additional Needs, Advice & Support, Disabilities

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How many times have you thought to yourself “I can’t do this...”

I bet it’s more than once. We all put on a brave face on social media and post pictures of us cuddled up with our children smiling and laughing and having a great time when the reality is actually, that great time lasted no more than ten minutes.

Especially now while we are all spending more time than ever together - and don’t get me wrong here, it’s great spending all this time together and I honestly love it most of the time. Memories will be made and we are all learning new things each day but my goodness it’s exhausting isn’t it!

We still all like to pretend that it isn’t by shoving all the toys and junk out of the way for the perfect photo, we take a picture of the amazing cake that we all baked together (when really we freaked out a little knowing what a huge clean up job it would be after and also the hundred little pieces of egg shell that got in the mix because your child just had to do it themselves).

You’ve maybe even shared things on social media saying something along the lines of “don’t struggle, talk to someone if you’re struggling, YOU matter”

You’re willing to help others but never take a minute to think about yourself, usually because you don’t have time!

But the truth is, something’s got to give and if you keep burning your candle at both ends then it just won’t last. However, share that light and you’ll see just how much things can be better.

It’s hard asking for help or admitting that you’re struggling but it’s even harder trying to do it all alone.

You might think that there’s no one that can help you and while that might be true physically right now, there will be someone you can call or even just message to talk to. Have a break, don’t feel guilty for letting your children watch tv or having the iPads so you can just breathe and be alone for a minute to your thoughts.

And don’t do it all! No one is going to judge you if you don’t tidy away the toys one night and have some time to take care of yourself.