For instance being around an exceptionally bubbly, optimistic and humorous friend can bring the other friend out of a sad and depressed state and vice versa - a overly sad friend can bring down the happy friend under certain circumstances and conditions.
As human beings we all draw energy from one another like sponges.
We absorb the energy around us no matter what that energy is giving off.
This often can cause many people to become uncomfortable when they are within a certain groups of people who have a mixture of energy and emotions - as they are doing their best to filter that energy and decide on what they're absorbing.
So why do we absorb the energies of others around us?
Theorists believe that this is common because we crave feeding our emotional state, and we often feed off of the emotions of others - however healthy or unhealthy that may actually be.
This also can account for why people can change their moods often multiple times throughout the day.
And some people, like special needs parents can be hosts to several conflicting emotions often simultaneously or concurrently with each other.
A special needs parent be stressed, angry, overwhelmed and anxious, and at the same time be optimistic, and joyful.
We are a spectrum of emotional fun. (Enter sarcasm).
And in knowing this, it often detours people from wanting to be our friends and either let our energy rub off on them, or allow us to feed from their energy - whatever that may be.
Our energies as special needs parents can be intimidating - and come from a place which is hard to understand.
While I can assure you that the large majority of us are not bi-polar, we do rock our emotions from one end to the other - almost all day long.
Perhaps a coping mechanism, but really because we're in touch with the emotional expressiveness that this journey takes on caring and parenting children with special needs.
But you will find that if you can isolate a special needs parent into a favorable energy space with another person that they'll be more hopeful, optimistic, uplifted and refueled faster and more quickly than if they had no positive energy source or person in their lives.
Likewise the same is true if you take a special needs parent and put them into an energy space with a grieving person, a depressed person, or one that is continually pessimistic about all circumstances and situations - you will see that special needs parent fester feelings and emotions that are less hopeful and even emotions that could be considered less than being in productive space.
Knowing that we all crave energy from each other, and that we all can absorb both positive and negative energy - how can one best help be the best energy source for a special needs parent?
Make a conscience effort to be in a good space with a special needs parent.
While offering them a sincere listening ear - also offer them great laughter, humor, fun - a cheerful presence with lightheartedness.
Certainly, it's more than okay to offer them a mixture of understanding and compassion about the gravity of the situation, but let them feed off of any positive you can throw their way.
It refuels the balance of the roller coaster of emotions that they go through in a single day.
And at the same time, don't shy away from a special needs parents because you fear their energy.
While our energy is unique and often unbalanced, our energy has the potential assist others with both empathy, compassion and patience. Don't be fearful of our type of energy.
It's often so across the board and we can't always help where our emotions take us.
It's hard and complicated and something that we try to be gentle with ourselves about.
So make an effort to offer and throw some positive energy in the direction of a special needs parent.
Guaranteed they are craving it and need it to refuel them through all the difficult moments and stages that come along with their children.
You had the potential to be a rainbow in their clouds -
“The human body is very similar to a plant that sucks, absorbs the energy needed to feed your emotional state, and can energize the cells and increase the amount of cortisol and catabolize, feed the cells depending on the emotional need. ” continues Bader-Lee.
That is why many people can change their mood which leads to being nervous, stressed, angry, anxious, sad, but also happy, optimistic and laughing.